Delaine Jones – Counsellor & Life Strategy Coach
Delaine has developed a unique approach to counselling and life strategy coaching. By tracing your history back to childhood, and finding the first life hurt or disappointment which created your current difficulties, Delaine helps you get to the bottom of them. You don’t require endless sessions with her to crack your difficulty and begin ways of changing it.
Her training in Re-evalutation Counselling prepared her for identifying patterns of behaviour which people often mistake for personality, and which are the culprits behind most depressions, addictions and even ways of coping with anger, grief and other emotional reactions that people can’t control. By the time your first hour is complete, you have many BFOs (Blinding Flashes of the Obvious) of pure awareness as to why your life has its difficulties.
You will be coached with the beginning tracks for learning new skills and tools that equip you to change those outcomes you often get stuck with on a day to day level.
Relationship counselling is her forte, as she has had many years experience counselling couples who have conflict operating throughout their communications with each other. Unlike most therapeutic approaches, Delaine spots the difficulity between a couple within the first 10 minutes of their time together, and she is able to guide them as the mediator/trainer to a skill base which brings the couple closer through understanding each others’ patterns which operate the conflict. She will often say that each person is innocent, but that doesn’t make arguing with a partner easy as the nature of patterns date back to our survival skills as children.
Her training varies to that of most therapists and you will feel as if you have chatted with a well informed friend at the end of your first session with her. The hour or so will fly and you will feel time has played a trick on you. Healing is nine tenths the awareness of where your patterns rule your life, and then Delaine will coach you to do the opposite to these patterns, freeing you up from what felt like enslavement to a way of being.
Because she can see outside your patterns she can help you break your own patterns.
She has a particular empathy for the nature of problems that each of the sexes have difficulty with. Men find her pragmatic and practical to work with and both men and woman find her sussinct and to the point about the endless cycles which they are trapped in. Her in-depth study of how men and women’s patterns sit in the ways they relate to each other answers many of the blocked or hidden misunderstanding of the opposite sex. Men and women have been set up to perform in certain ways not only through society’s conditioning, but also through inherited methods of oppression of each other. During her classes it is not uncommon that women will cry listening to a panel of men talking about the ways they have been hurt in their lives. Similarly men go quiet when they hear the stories of women in how they put themselves last in almost everything they do. Both men and women can experience these hurts, however men’s distresses differ greatly to women’s. Just a few ideas of how each sex supports the misunderstandings which get passed down from generation to generation. Delaine brings this information to her clients and before long they are no longer under the influence of those attitudes and enables them to choose more benefital ways of being through simple information and support.
Delaine can help you change to a considerable degree and in most cases completely. She will help you with:-
- Depression
- Conflict resolution
- Anger management
- Anxiety disorders
- Communication skills
- Executive/corporate stress
- Health issues stemming from blocked emotions
- Cultural awareness
- Lifestyle/career guidance
- Crisis management
- Support for difficult transitions
- Loneliness and isolation
- Finding the elusive partner
- Addictions
- Suicidal thinking
Talk with Delaine and you will have a sense that you are not alone any more, and you will be well informed to make real changes in your life.